Many promising reconciliations have broken down because while both parties come prepared to forgive, neither party comes prepared to be forgiven.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Someone asked me to recommend a book on forgiveness today and I mentioned my favorite author on the subject, Lewis Smedes. I also shared with this person a very powerful definition of forgiveness: Giving up all hope of a better past.
Since then I've found myself prowling around on the net looking for more material and I came across this:
It often hurts our pride to be forgiven when we prefer to hang on to the belief that we've done nothing wrong. This dynamic is really something to bring to our reflection time, I think.