It is actually a form of exploitation to want another to be primarily an extension of oneself. Even so, it is tragically common. Merton expresses this truth simply, briefly, skillfully:
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
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