Artist: Henri d Toulouse-Lautrec
One of my Facebook friends posted the following today by Inayat Khan. I do think it is a very insightful observation:
"If one studies one's surroundings one finds that those who are happy are so because they have less thought of self. If they are unhappy it is because they think of themselves too much. A person is more bearable when he thinks less of himself. And a person is unbearable when he is always thinking of himself. There are many miseries in life, but the greatest misery is self-pity."Now, I want to hasten to add that self-pity is not the same as self-compassion. It's very important that we have compassion for ourselves because (among other reasons) if we don't, we are likely to project that lack of compassion onto others.
Self-pity is not only unattractive, it is profoundly dis-empowering.
When you think about it, Jesus was never given to self-pity. But he certainly had compassion on himself as well as on others.