Saturday, August 22, 2009

To love or to be loved?

A Currier and Ives piece
Many people who come to talk to me really, really want to be loved. That's so understandable, so normal. But is it really the aspiration that will bring us the greatest peace, the greatest happiness?

The important thing was to love rather than to be loved.

W. Somerset Maugham

Yes, it would be wonderful to have both. But if you could only have one, which would it be? That may be the most important question you'll ever ask in your life.


  1. To have loved. Then I know I have lived and it has not been wasted.

  2. I agree with you Paul.

    annie c


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